Reflections on Gifting
As the festive season arrives, the world is drawn into a time of giving—a season where gifts become tokens of appreciation and connection. But amidst the sparkle and ribbon, we find ourselves asking: What truly makes a gift meaningful? Why do we seek them? And do they bring us the happiness and appreciation we hope for? We wanted to explore these questions by opening up a conversation around the art of gifting and what it means to each of us.
We reached out to some of our readers to hear their perspectives on gifts, and their answers reflected the many ways that gifts can touch our lives. For some, gifts are a way to connect with themselves; for others, they are a language of love or a thoughtful gesture to share with family. Here’s what they shared with us:
“Buying gifts for myself is important. I know what I like and what I want, and I see it as a way to love and appreciate myself as the year ends.”
For Christine, gifting is about self-appreciation—a way to celebrate the year’s journey and recognise personal growth. Buying a gift for oneself can feel empowering, a gentle reminder that giving begins within. It’s not about indulgence but about honouring self-worth and treating oneself with kindness. In the end, these small gestures can be as meaningful as any gift from another.
“I like to choose secret gifts for my wife, though she often says I don’t choose the right things. I try to remember what she searches for or saves, and I love surprising her, but somehow, I still get it wrong…”
For Joey, gifting is an ongoing, heartfelt challenge—a mystery in discovering what brings true delight to his partner. Despite the struggle, there is a charm in this effort; it’s an expression of his love and a commitment to finding joy together. His experience shows that sometimes, it’s the attempt, the intention behind the gift, that is the real present. The gift becomes a shared experience, a way to grow closer even through missteps.
“I always think of gifts for my parents and kids first. Starting in November, I spend time planning gifts for our big family. I don’t have time to think of myself, but sometimes, when my kids ask if I believe in Santa, I think, ‘Yes, and I want a nice gift from Santa too!’”
For Song, the act of gifting is about family. It’s a tradition, a moment of shared warmth, where each person becomes part of a larger whole. Yet, even in the selflessness of giving to others, there’s a quiet desire for a gift in return, a gesture that says, “You are seen, too.” Her words remind us that, in giving to others, we can also wish for a moment of receiving—a token of gratitude and love.
Reflecting on these insights, it’s clear that gifts hold different meanings for each of us. They’re not simply objects wrapped in paper but expressions of care and connection—for ourselves and others. Some gifts are for celebration, some for gratitude, and some are an unspoken reminder that we all need a spark of joy at year’s end. Gifts may not always bring the happiness we seek, but the thought and meaning they carry often linger long after the season has passed.
At Helene Quan, we believe that the most cherished gifts are those that reflect thoughtfulness and a sense of purpose. Whether it’s a gift to oneself, a carefully chosen surprise, or a gesture to honour loved ones, a meaningful gift can be as lasting as a treasured memory.
We invite you to share your own thoughts on gifting—what gifts mean to you, or perhaps the gift you wish for most. We’d love to hear your reflections and stories as we embrace the season together.
